“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” –Bryant H. McGill
As we begin this journey about how to truly listen to the ones we love, and even the ones we don’t, I want you to know that I recognize it is not an easy skill to learn. It takes practice. It takes diligence and and resolve. It is easy to fall into old habits. This is a subject I continually work on, research and learn about. Nothing would thrill be more than a dialogue rather than a lecture. Comment at will.
This post is about moving communication roadblocks to help make listening easier. The “speaker” is these examples, is someone speaking from a podium, it is your friend or family member having everyday conversations.
~ Digging for information the speaker is resistant to talk about
There is much said for having patience enough to wait until someone is ready to open up. Sometimes when it is forced too soon, it is not communicated properly.
~ Wait your turn
It is rude to interrupt. It causes the speaker to lose the train of thought. It is disrespectful. If you have a question about what is being said, jot it down so you can clarify at a more appropriate time.
~ Quick unsolicited replies
These interrupt the flow in what the speaker is trying to say. Quick little comments, even like “no worries” may derail the process. Shhh, be still.
If someone is specifically asking for your advice, you still to need to listen to all the information and then give possible solutions, not preach or lecture. They can go to church and get a sermon and that is where it belongs. (See it stings a little even here.)
Move those blocks right off the road.