No one really wants a friend who has an over inflated ego. It is unpleasant and hard to deal with. The goal is to have healthy self esteem and a tolerance for others. Here are some simple signs that show you have a healthy self esteem.
You are willing to take risks
Playing it safe is important when the risks are too high. However, growth and progress are only reached through change. Change is always a risk. If you have a healthy self esteem you embrace, adjust, change and take risks.
You are humble and teachable
It is important to be proud of your accomplishments. There is a huge difference between being proud and being prideful. A good self image leaves plenty of room for learning new ideas, accepting constructive criticism, trying new ideas and exploring alternate theories. An open mind is a great tool.
You are willing to say “no”
Learning how to express yourself and say no at the appropriate times is a definite sign of a confident person. It is simple. It is something that can be practiced.
“No, I won’t be able to help with that this time. I appreciate the offer.”
“That won’t work for me now. Perhaps I can be available for another project.”
It is important that you understand you do not have to apologize for saying no.
You set firm boundaries
If you are willing to set firm reasonable boundaries, others will will eventually stop pushing. Respect is given to those who expected it and act accordingly.
Look for these signs when you are choosing friends and leaders. A healthy self esteem is a great trait and it makes relationships much easier.