What if happiness is not a set of circumstance? What if happiness is a skill set that can be learned and then executed in any situation? What would that skill set look like and how would you develop it? Is happiness really just building a tool kit and knowing how to use the tools?
~ Use kind words
My mother used to scoff at people when they said “Count to ten when you are angry.” Her reply went something like this, “Don’t bother counting to ten. Instead say 25 kind words and your mind will go in a different direction.”
Now I challenge you to stop reading right now and write down 25 kind words. If you can do it, please leave them in a comment. The world needs more lists of kind words.
~ Make friends with change
Change is consistent. It is going to happen. Even if you are thrilled with the most current change, it will expire, and be replaced someday. So greet change with a smile, enjoy it while it lasts and give it a fond farewell when it goes.
~ Foster a sense of wonderment and curiosity
As long as you can keep a sense of wonder you will learn. Are you amazed how many seeds come from a single dandelion? Are you surprised when several evenings in a row you see the best sunsets ever? Those are great examples of wonderment.
Curiosity is similar in some ways. How did that happen? Why is that there? Where did that come from and where will it go? As long as you have the curiosity of a child, you will be able to find happiness.
~ Embrace acceptance
Once you realize “it is what it is”, you have a starting point. You know exactly where you are,what you are and you accept it. From there, you can say “it is what it is and it doesn’t always have to be that way” and become whatever you are willing to change.
Have you ever considered happiness may be a skill set that applies to any situation? I really must continue to ponder the thought.